Mother, Ma, Mommy, Mama, Mami, Aama, Mata, Inay, Nanay, Momo, Mum, Mummy, Mass, Emm, Eomma are but a few words that refer to one’s mother. We all have one, a mother. What exactly is a mother? Today we find the need for a very broad, politically correct, and complicated definition.
“Mothers are females who inhabit or perform the role of bearing some relation to their children, who may or may not be their biological offspring. Thus, dependent on the context, females can be considered mothers by virtue of having given birth, by raising their child(ren), supplying their ovum for fertilisation, or some combination thereof. ” https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother
Really….that sounds rather stuffy and a little creepy to me. A mother is so much more than a body that has the parts to reproduce. The definition mentions ‘bearing some relation to their children’ a rather vague suggestion of something.
Mother’s Day, a special day to pay our respects to our mother. The day draws big money suggesting properly treated mothers receive a card, be taken to dinner and or presented with a gift. Very lucky mothers, such as myself, spend quality time with their family as a gift. Over time, however, the concept of Mother’s Day has become increasingly uncomfortable for me. In my mind there are way too many people left out. I am more comfortable thinking of Mother’s Day as Mothering Day. As a female I have experienced the drive to nurture or mother…the vast majority of women do. What makes us different from one another is who or what we nurture or mother. For some it is our children, students, neighbors, or elderly parents. For others it may be their dog, cat, bird, horse, nature, etc. It is the act of nurturing not a position I want to celebrate.
Mothering or nurturing may be done by females, males or all living creatures. For me the act of nurturing is caring for someone or something outside yourself in an exceptionally positive manner. A nurturer encourages both physical and emotional well being. Nurturing is a very big job, one that the success of the world depends on. Over time I have come across some pictures and videos that have dearly touched me. This is what I like to think about on Mother’s Day.
I could go on and on…there is a lot of nurturing being done. I personally found joy in nurturing my twins, my students, my pets and my parents. Buy a Mother’s Day card to send to a friend from their pet. I did that one year, the recipients were elated. Think of all those you have nurtured and those who have nurtured you. Say thank you either to them directly or spiritually. Happy Mothering Day.